Showing posts with label Toronto Mamas Give Good Karma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Toronto Mamas Give Good Karma. Show all posts

Saturday, February 10, 2007

Your Hot Body

by Sandra

That’s right, your body is hot. H-O-T. Even after a couple of kids with sagging parts and stretchmarky parts and parts that have generally re-distributed themselves, it is a hot commodity. In both the traditional sense of: I-love-my-curves-or-lack-of-curves-and-that-self-confidencs-makes-me-sexy kind of way. But also in the: my-body-is-hot-because-it-can-do-a lot-of- good kind of way.


That’s right girlfriend, use that body of yours.


We’ve all heard those “it’s in you to give” commercials and the 1-888-2-DONATE number that I know almost as well as Pizza Pizza’s. Those ads play constantly because our blood banks need blood. They really, really do. In fact, their website reports that every minute of every day, someone in Canada needs blood. A cancer patient requires roughly 8 units of blood every week. A car accident victim could need as much as 50 units of blood. A liver transplant recipient often must receive up to 100 units of blood.


It doesn’t cost you any money and doesn’t take a ton of time. But it is one of the most tangible ways you can help people. It is literally life saving. And there are blood donor clinics happening all over the city. Basically if you are between 17 and 71, haven’t donated in the past 56 days, weigh at least 110 lbs, and are in good health then they want you. If you have had a pregnancy within the last 6 months you need to wait but otherwise, most mamas are absolutely great candidates


And its not just blood you can donate through Canadian Blood Services. They are also urging people to consider donating plasma, and platelets and become part of a bone marrow registry. I didn’t know you could be part of the “Unrelated Bone Marrow Donor Registry” until today. I also didn’t know that fewer than 30 percent of patients who need bone marrow transplants are able to find a compatible donor within their own family. Fewer than 30 percent. I am going to register. Today. Now if only someone could use my wrinkles, I’d gladly donate those too.


But what if you faint at the sight of a needle? Your body is still hot, hot, hot. I wish I could suggest you can donate breast milk, but at present there is only 1 clinic in Canada and that is in Vancouver (there used to be 23 in total before cut backs and the tainted blood scandal). But there are some good people working very hard to try and get one going here in T.O. I’ll keep you posted.


We can’t forget about your gorgeous hair. This one is a win-win. You get a fabulous new look by cutting 10 inches off your long tresses and someone in need receives an equally fabulous wig when you donate to a great organization like Locks of Love or the local Angel Hair for Kids.


And then there are organ donations. Here is where I get down on bended knee with that look you can’t avert your eyes from and I urge that you to really, really think about what I am about to ask you to do. It doesn’t involve a needle or an extreme haircut. It just involves signing your name to a card and communicating your wishes to your family. Become an organ donor. You can download a cute card to fill out and keep in your wallet and give to your family here or here.


Did you know that there are over 4000 people waiting to receive an organ transplant in Canada? Or that five people die each week waiting for transplants that can’t take place because of the shortage of donated organs. Those numbers might feel abstract, but for many of us they are painful reminders.


One of my best friends in the world fell madly in love with an incredible man. They had one of those epic romances that rival the greatest of movies. The look in her eyes was the epitome of true happiness. Shortly after they were married, he was admitted to the hospital to treat his Cystic Fibrosis and this time they were told that he’d have to stay and wait for a double lung transplant. So my friend left her job and sold her house and spent every waking moment by his side in the hospital. Loving him. And Waiting. Waiting for the lungs that would give him new life so they could start theirs together. They waited for more than a year and those lungs never came. He died, in her arms, in his 30’s in November of 1999. It was the single most heart breaking memorial service I have ever attended. His passing touched hundreds of people. And it was that day that I am ashamed to say I only signed my organ donor card for the very first time. And it was that day that I became an advocate for organ donation.


We don’t want to think of the idea of what happens to our parts when we are gone. We don’t want to think about going. We figure our family will just do the right thing and know that organ donation would be what we want. But sometimes, when you are sad with loss the idea of letting the doctors remove organs isn’t where their head is at. So sign the card. Tell your family. Make it really clear. Because that solitary act can save a life. A life like my friend lost.


And what’s the point of having a hot body if you can’t share it?

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When she is not raising her 5-year-old-boy-genius, Sandra is an ex-advertising exec who spends her days working with a grassroots feminist charity. She is also an aspiring writer, chocolate-loving vegetarian … and a blogger.

Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Mom-Friendly Volunteering: January Edition

by Sandra

Volunteering…


Maybe it’s on that long list of ambitious New Year’s resolutions. Maybe it was on last year’s list too. Maybe it was part of your life before kids and now you are just not sure how to squeeze it back in.


Pulling together this first installment of parent-friendly volunteer opportunities, (that take into account a mama’s schedule or welcome our children), hasn’t been as easy as I’d hoped. One organization actually told me, “Our volunteer roles are very mom-friendly. They are anybody-friendly. You just need to hire a babysitter.”


I absolutely get there are many roles that, for lots of valid and practical reasons, are more suited to us at other times in our lives. Tutoring teens, sitting on a board, answering the phone at a suicide line, helping at a fundraiser, or doing advocacy work can be tough if you don’t have childcare support. Because, let’s face it, sometimes just getting your haircut is tough to do with a child.


But it can be done. Well, (examining roots) maybe not always the haircut … but the volunteering … it can.


The most important factor in finding a meaningful volunteer experience is to identify a cause you are passionate about. Start by calling your favourite charity and telling them what you hope to get out of volunteering and the time you have to commit. Consider inquiring about becoming a virtual volunteer or writing for a newsletter. You can ask for flexible roles or ones that welcome your child or that can even involve your older kids. A good volunteer manager will work with you to find the right fit.


To save you some time, here are a few current local volunteer openings that are uber mom-friendly…


Roots of Empathy

The fabulous west-coast Canadian blogger, Mother-Woman, recently wrote about, Roots of Empathy. This is a remarkable initiative where babies become part of a classroom learning program to help develop empathy in children. One of my friends has volunteered in a Toronto school with her baby and raves about the experience. If your baby is between 2-4 months old, you should check out their site to become an ROE family. If your baby is not so little anymore, contact your principal or teacher about getting this program in your children’s curriculum. I wrote an email to my son’s school last week.


Visiting Seniors

The West Toronto Support Services, (and other similar organizations that work with seniors) are looking for volunteers for their friendly visiting program. They welcome children to come on the visit with an older person who could benefit from the company and many of the seniors love to meet the wee ones. To learn more, contact: rdin@wtss.org.


Blog for Good

Want to take those blogging skills and help a fairly new charity? The Children’s AIDS Health Program, has an opening for a blogger to write about their programs and the issue of children living with AIDS. Started by some very remarkable youth, you can reach them at: volunteer@letsstopaids.org.


Volunteering Outside a Specific Charity

If volunteering for a specific charity doesn’t work for you, there are lots of ways you can make a meaningful difference outside of the structures of a formalized non-profit volunteer program. Perhaps you know a neighbour who has trouble getting around – you could offer to help them with their grocery shopping. Or, do what we did one year, and form a family assembly line in your kitchen to pack a few dozen nutritious brown-bag meals. Then tour around the city and deliver dinner to those weathering the elements and living on our streets.


The options are endless. Really endless.


And it feels good. As good as a new hair cut … or even better.


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When she is not raising her 5-year-old-boy-genius, Sandra is an ex-advertising exec who spends her days working with a grassroots feminist charity. She is also an aspiring writer, chocolate-loving vegetarian … and a blogger.

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

A special post today, for a very special event

by Sandra

‘Tis is the season when everyone is giving. People are embracing the holiday spirit, remembering others and supporting charities more than at any other time. You can just feel it in the air. It is something I wish I could bottle up and sprinkle around town all year long.


As we remember the "gift of giving" for the holidays, the mommy blogosphere is uniting in support of a very deserving cause. And not just in any old way either. In a pretty spectacular (and fun) way. Lead by Motherhood Uncensored and MotherGooseMouse, a number of bloggers have come together in record numbers (including all the writers here at MommyBlogsToronto). We've rallied our holiday giving spirit behind an important cause in honour of a much loved woman and her beautiful nephew, Tanner.


Her Bad Mother is one of the creative minds behind the inception of MommyBlogsToronto and is a great champion of the mommy blogosphere. To know her is to know that she has a big heart, fascinating mind and a fierce love for her daughter. And that love it is strong and it extends to so many others in her life. One of the most important people is her nephew who lives with Muscular Dystrophy. Through is aunt’s poignant words, those who read her blog have grown to love and know him as well.


It is with all that overflowing of love and hope, especially when it is easy to get swept up with everything else on our holiday to do list, that we remember to take the time to do something to make a difference.


Her Bad Auction
Starting today you are invited to join mommy (and daddy) bloggers from Toronto (and all over) to participate in Her Bad Auction, a raffle-style auction in support of Muscular Dystrophy research.


You can get involved by bidding with raffle tickets on a list of amazing items just in time for the holiday gifting season. You'll find baby stuff, mommy stuff, hand-made stuff, blogger stuff ... some very, verrrrry good stuff! There are many fabulous gift ideas and, best of all, 100% of the proceeds go directly to support the work of MD Canada. All the details can be found here and the more tickets you buy, the more chances you have to win your favourite items.


You can also help out by spreading the word. Tell everyone you know that all they need to do to participate in our bloggy fundraiser is have an easy-to-set-up paypal account (and a penchant for raffles).


Most of all, you can participate in a meaningful way by getting your child(ren) involved to help make Tanner's holiday season extra special. Fill it with letters and pictures and cards from kids letting him know how cool he his. They can tell him about their life and world. It is a wonderful way for our children to be part of making someone's holiday's great. They are already writing to Santa ... and this is even better. You can send your letters here:
"Letters for Tanner"
1518 Queen Street West,
Toronto, ON,
M6R 1A4


So stop reading this. Go and bid on lots of tickets for the raffle. Write some letters and spread the word. 'Tis the season!

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When she is not raising her 5-year-old-boy-genius, Sandra is an ex-advertising exec who spends her days working with a grassroots feminist charity. She is also an aspiring writer, chocolate-loving vegetarian … and a blogger.

Wednesday, December 06, 2006

The Gift of Giving

by Sandra

With the holiday season upon us, we find ourselves in the throws of Christmas and Hanukah gift shopping. I'd be lying if I didn't admit it is one of my very favourite times of the year.



When we first began celebrating our holidays with a child, suddenly we're thrust into the coveted role of "tradition creators". Many of us adopt magic making rituals from when we were children and marry them with new ideas of our own.



One of the things that I grapple with is the commercialism of the holidays and all the excess. I want to add a new dimension for my son and find ways to make it meaningful. Most often people are able to do this through their own religious traditions. But for many of us, that isn't an option. Yet, it is still so very possible to keep the spirit of giving and goodwill at the centre of the season.



I love giving gifts. But I don't want this time of year to be just about acquiring stuff. One thoughtful alternative to commercial gifts is to make a donation to your favourite charity in the name of a loved one. Instead of receiving yet another gift basket or scarf, they'll know that they are doing good. Or if you want to put the charity choosing in their hands, then you can even give someone a gift card from CanadaHelps.org. Then they can go online and choose from thousands of Canadian charities to direct their donation to. It's like double dipping (the good kind) in the giving department and spreading the love around. (And for my family and friends reading ... this kind of gift would be on the top of my own wish list. hint. hint.)



Understandably, this kind of gift isn't for everyone on your list. If you are looking for a more tangible way to include causes in your holiday giving, there are still endless options. Some of my personal fav holiday gift ideas come from charities. Last season we "adopted" a polar bear for my son and this year his unwrapping will include saving an Orca. We are buying school supplies in Africa on behalf of his teacher instead of the standard issue “World’s Best Teacher” mug. There are so many cool ways to donate in someone's name. You can buy a goat for a family in a developing country or adopt an owl or purchase any number of interesting presents whose proceeds go to help charity. Some fabulous and meaningful holiday giving programs can be found at any of the following (to name just a few):


World Wildlife Fund

World Vision

Foster Parents Plan

Free the Children

Unicef

Sick Kids Hospital

Children's Wish




Or you can check out dozens more here:

Charity Village Market Place Listings



If you haven't already picked up your holiday cards, some great ones can be found at many of the above. Last year we sent one from the Breast Cancer Foundation and the year before from the World Wildlife Fund. This year we are helping children around the world with one of Unicef's trendy designs. It makes those hours of writing the same greeting over and over feel more meaningful as we are helping raise awareness for an issue and contributing a little at the same time. And they are super easy to order online so you don't even have to brave the manic frenzy in the malls.



Aside from giving gifts to those we know and love that have the added benefit of also helping a deserving cause, what about gifts directly to people we don't know? Here is one powerfully written suggestion that I could not say any better - and that I enthusiastically second.



We are excited about another tradition of participating in one of the many local toy drives. My five year old will be the one to choose a toy for a child in need. It is fun to do and a stellar opportunity for him to actively participate in our charitable giving in a way he can relate to and understand the most. You can donate unwrapped toys to the Chum City Christmas Wish until December 22nd at any Royal Bank, Chum at 1331 Yonge or the Much Store at 777 Queen St w. Or you could give to the Mix FM Holiday Toy Drive, which runs until Dec 16 at Real Canadian Superstores. The Sick Kids Hospital main information desk is accepting toys for children until December 20th. And the hunky Toronto Fire Fighters have a Toy Drive until December 24th at all 81 Toronto Fire stations.



We also plan to bring some bags of good eats to the food drive for Daily Bread Food bank at fire halls, Real Canadian Superstores or any of their ongoing drop off locations. I always sit staring at the excess of leftovers that remain after our holiday feast and wish there were a way I could share more. I want my son to understand that and be a part of sharing and giving and not just getting and consuming.



So go forth and shop my friends. Shop for a cause. Shop for a thoughtful alternative to commercial holiday giving. Shop for kids and families who need it more than your own. Consider thinking of those not on your normal shopping list as a part of your annual family traditions.



For it is true that this season is most certainly a time "when Want is keenly felt, and Abundance rejoices" ~Charles Dickens (A Christmas Carol).
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When she is not raising her 5-year-old-boy-genius, Sandra is an ex-advertising exec who spends her days working with a grassroots feminist charity. She is also an aspiring writer, chocolate-loving vegetarian … and a blogger.

Monday, November 20, 2006

Changin’ the World One Mommy Blog At A Time

by Sandra

"Never doubt that a small, group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." ~ Margaret Mead


Now, that quote is just a bit overwhelming. Change the world? How small of a group? What exactly do you expect me to do? If you are gonna give me a weekly guilt trip, Sandra, I am so outta here.


I get it. No guilt and no unreasonable expectations either. I promise. But maybe once in a while, we can come up with something that may give you a reason feel pretty good or to even reward yourself with a pair of cute new shoes. Or a decadent flourless chocolate cake. Whatever your poison, I am not above bribery and incentives. Hell, I am a mother.


I am also a mother who is a lot like you. I care about issues. Ever since I became a parent, I cannot watch the news the same way. I know from talking to other moms, that our social awareness and primal concern for the world that our children are growing up in, has been intensified after childbirth. Just another one of the many secrets no one warns us about pre-conception. That, and the saggy boobs were two of my biggest surprises.


The ironic challenge is that at a time when we are most affected by issues and have such a desire to make a difference, we have NO time. Make that less than no time. Seriously. How am I supposed to sit on a volunteer board, or lobby the government or spend time helping street youth when I barely can fit a shower into my mommy-fied schedule? Charity begins at home, sister. And if you've seen my laundry pile or watched me reduced to tears along with my child in the throws of a tantrum, you'd know that saying was never truer of me.


So it’s tough. But it is not impossible. And I hope to try to make it easier. My idealistic pipe dream is to find a way for us socially conscious mamas to be part of making change in the world. In small, reasonable, mother-scheduling-challenged ways. I look forward to digging up issues to discuss, flexible volunteer opportunities, family friendly fundraising events and even things that just require you signing your name to a worthy petition. No guilt. No need to hire a nanny to find the time. Because every little bit helps. It does.


So where to begin on this naive quest of mine? Why not right here in the blogosphere. Most of you reading this are bloggers so you already find time for your site. Let's start with that. And I know you know how because when Her Bad Mother issued a recent call to action, well, we bloggers responded. In impressive numbers! And it felt damn good.


So why stop there? Maybe you can resolve to write a post about a charity or issue that is close to your heart each month (I know you NaBloPoMo folks must be looking for content by now). Or if that is too much, then try each quarter or even each year. You can find ideas for some stellar non-profits at sites like Charity Village. I think it makes for some interesting reading and certainly challenges the narrow-minded mommy-blog critics who say we only write about poopy diapers and post cute kid pics.


Writer's block? Not to worry. One of the most important things that Canadian charities need is awareness. They need people talking and thinking about their issue and you can help. With your blog, you have a very public voice. Whether your readership is a dozen or hundreds of visitors daily, you have the ability to spread awareness. Many of you are already doing it, but lets all consider adding a short list of links on our sidebar spotlighting some charities that you think are worthy of your readers checking out. You can put one or two or ten. There are more than 78,000 charities registered in Canada alone so there's got to be one in there that resonates with you. And with that many needy charities out there, it doesn't take a statistician to realize that the competition for share of heart and wallet is fierce. Help them out by spreading the word.


Every little bit counts. It does. It really, really does. So what are you waiting for? The offer of bribes and incentives won't last forever ...
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When she is not raising her 5-year-old-boy-genius, Sandra is an ex-advertising exec who spends her days working with a grassroots feminist charity. She is also an aspiring writer, chocolate-loving vegetarian … and a blogger.

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Toronto Mamas Give Good Karma


by Sandra

For GTA moms who want to take action. Kid-friendly volunteering, charity events, and social activism you even can do from your couch!


Looking for some good Karma to make up for cutting off that SUV last week? How about to counter-balance those fantasies of running away with Dr. McDreamy? Toronto Mamas Give Good Karma is guide for local moms who want to take action to make our city, and our children’s world, a better place. Becoming a mom can make watching all the bad news stories unbearable … this is our chance to do something about it.Sandra will take you on a virtual tour of GTA kid-friendly volunteer opportunities and charitable events for moms. Not enough hours in the day? No problem. We’ll also share lots of social activism you can do right from your couch.

Toronto Mamas making a difference.